One of the things I can’t stand seeing - and it happens way too often - is what happens after a narcissist discards a woman. He does it over and over again and every time, she still comes back, because he knows how to reel her in. But then one day, she finally wakes up. She decides to leave. And instead of accepting it, he flips it, makes a scene, plays the victim, and tries to make it look like he’s the one who discarded her. Because that’s what narcissists do. They throw people away like old toys. Once it loses its shine, they move on to the next. But what breaks my heart is what I can’t stand the most - is when the woman validates that story by falling apart. When she becomes angry, cold, or isolates herself, she unknowingly gives him what he wanted. Because the truth is - the whole reason he targeted her in the first place is because she had something he didn’t. She was full of light. She had an aura, a presence, a warmth, intelligence, emotional depth, and purpose. He hated that, because he didn’t have it in him. So, like every insecure person, he tried to tear her apart, layer by layer until she forgot who she was. But here’s what women need to understand: That pain? That destruction? It was never meant to break you, it was meant to awaken you. These people show up as your challenge - the exact test you need to rise into the strongest, boldest, most powerful version of yourself. You fell for him because you had a big heart. You were empathetic, open, soft. And the truth is, those with soft hearts are the ones who need to be tested the hardest so they can learn to protect that heart while keeping it open. This was your test. And you can win. Don’t let him win by becoming bitter. Don’t let him harden you. That’s his victory.

The real revenge is growth. The real win is becoming wiser, stronger, and even more compassionate than before. That’s the only thing that truly destroys a narcissist because it’s everything they can never be.

That’s your power. And that’s your healing.