Choose your soulmate like you'd choose your shoes. When it comes to your solemate, only one size is going to fit. If you're planning on having a kick ass life, you're going to have to search for some real kick ass shoes.
So there you are. La Deeee da... looking for that perfect pair of shoes. Well, perfect for YOU. You aren't sure what you'll end up with but you're open to trying on as many different pairs as you need to. I'm not saying sleep with every shoe, I'm saying try them on for a size, wear them to coffee. You aren't settling for anything less than you deserve, and you never should. Anyway....WOAH. These are the ones! Pick EM UP. $2,260 Manolo's (def not on sale) and you try em on. There's an aura of light with shining moon dust around them and then a twinkling sound similar to what it sounded like when Jesus got baptized. As you go to pick them up, You know they're a bloody fortune and it will cost you more than you know - your life actually. But instead you choose to ignore your instincts and try them on anyway. Side fact: you know you're going against your instincts when that big loud screaming "NO" and step the "fuc<---k away" blasts into your now fragile little ears. Then naturally you go and do what Women do best, you shoed it away. As you put one foot in, you're hoping that they fit. Ohhhh...they dooooo! You stand up, do a little catwalk ya one the cat walk, yeah! Mmkkay these look good!! Then you look up and see if anyone else sees just how fine you look. Looking for approval = red flag numero uno.
There it is. Sold! You're ready to take them off the market. Thing is, they look good but man oh man, they're killin you!! Be honest with yourself. Can you really wear these shoes, actually feel comfortable, and be yourself in them? Or are you going to have to force that smile and pretend the whole damn night like all of those fake peppy smiling salesmen out there? Your feet are yelling at you to take them the hell off, but you're being completely blinded by the shiny navy sequins, turquoise silk feathers and the rest of the "fabulous" exterior. Yes, they may be gorgeous but are they practical? The sole is the real essence of the shoe and that's what you should be looking for. Assuming that you're at the right age for wearing heels, You won't know until you've tried on quite a few. How else would you have anything to compare it to? Once you do, you'll have a far better understanding of what you should be looking for. Believe me, you can find both. Without a beautiful sole, your feet will hurt b-a-d-l-y and then the only person there to blame will be yourself. Then you think to yourself, if only I went shoe shopping with Liz. Nope. Liz isn't going to be the one in your shoes. As a woman, you know very well shoe shopping is a very personal thing. You know what's right, so listen to your feet when they speak to you Woman! Do not waste your time with the wrong pair.
If you have to call and text your entire girl squad for their opinions, or you find yourself passing on your usual extra whip in your latte, or worse, skipping on your latte, then trust me when I tell you that's a big bright flailing red flag waving in your pretty face. When it's the right pair of shoes, it will feel so right. There will be no late night googling "is my boyfriend gay?", "is my boyfriend a sociopath?" , "is my boyfriend just trying to marry me for a green card?". There should be absolutely no confusion. NONE. It will feel so right because soul mates recognize each other by vibes, not by appearances. So if the shoe fits, then it's a keeper. Remember darling, good shoes will take you only to good places. Mentally, spiritually and physically.
written by: Rebekah Garfunkel
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